There was this time in my life when things were really going the wrong way, and things ended up getting a lot worse before they got better. And later, when my dad died, I thought happiness was, in the logical formula sense, necessarilly no longer available to me.
I guess one of the things that makes me lucky is that I had a friend who once wrote me something that has had such an impact on my life I've never forgotten it. When I needed it, I used to read it and I needed it so much that I got to the point that I just remembered it. He was a great friend and this is what he wrote:
I too often wonder how I came to be travelling along this particular path, though these thoughts are not very productive. Through it all there is one promise I have made to myself, although I know I am no better at keeping promises to myself than are others, but that is to keep things in perspective.
I have travelled too far, read too much and seen too many to ever believe that my suffering somehow sets the standard, provides the ruler, or is the litmus test against which all other suffering should be examined.
While this does not lessen the burden I bear, it does keep things in perspective.
What I appreciate most about that whole piece is the last sentence. Knowing that other people have it worse, doesn't take away any of the struggle you might be facing. Your hurt and your pain are yours to bear and it's as simple as that. What it does do, is keep things in perspective, and sometimes that's enough to help you believe that things will get better. And that's a good thing, because they will.
The beautiful thing about friendship is, friends make life tolerable when life doesn't seem to be giving up any of the goods.
Sometimes frienship is whacking ya upside the head when ya need it.
Sometimes it's just knowing when you need some time and space.
Sometimes it's vetoing your right to time and space and dragging you out for a beer.
Whatever your idea of friendship is, I hope you know that you've got people around you who care about you and who would do anything to help you out.
...Even if they aren't good enough to be in the BBA.